Emotionally prepare for your next pregnancy
Move past your difficult fertility journey or birth trauma and start living the life you wish for.
I understand
You’re an independent, high-achieving woman or birthing person who knows what they wants and has the skills and confidence to get it.
BUT you desperately want a baby.
No matter what you try, things aren’t working out how you want them to. You’ve lost control of your life and things are getting worse. Nothing could prepare you for the trauma of losing a baby, and with the added pressure of going through this while undergoing fertility treatment, you’re spiralling into depression. You’ve lost confidence in yourself, and your relationships are being affected.
Are you experiencing a difficult IVF journey, pregnancy or have you experienced a traumatic birth?
While some people are able to process a difficult IVF journey or a traumatic pregnancy or birth, there are many who can’t, and instead go on to develop symptoms such as reoccurring dreams or flashbacks to the events, difficulty sleeping, anxiety, irritability or physical sensations such as pain, sweating, feeling sick.
People often develop negative thoughts about themselves, their bodies or others and can avoid talking about what happened, or even avoiding places or people that remind them of the event. This all may lead to fears around the next pregnancy.
I can help
I have various options of support that will allow you to feel safe, heard and understood, whilst allowing you to move past your trauma and to work towards living the life you wish for. I also have years of experience of working with clinical negligence cases, if this something you want support with.
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The end to start the beginning
Price: Starting from £180
A place to talk about your reproductive trauma narrative, which includes IVF, the “two week wait”, pregnancy loss, termination for medical reasons, birth trauma and neonatal loss. This session will provide you with an opportunity to reflect, untangle, explore and plan for the short term or long-term future.
Description
This is a type of debrief / reflections session around your Reproductive themes, which may include IVF, the “two week wait”, pregnancy loss, termination for medical reasons, birth trauma and neo natal loss.
It is a 90 minute session for you to share and reflect on your experience. You will also be introduced to a grounding technique to help support anxious feelings.
Within the session, we will produce a collaborative action plan to support you in working towards the beginning of the next chapter. You will receive a free resource to help document your next steps, as well as offering tips and resources.
What this is
A safe place to share, reflect, process, and explore your experiences. It is also a chance to remind yourself that you can have some control.
What this is not
It is not therapy, although some therapeutic frameworks maybe shared to help provide meaning to your experience.
Please note that a risk assessment and further information will need to be sought prior to the agreement of suitability, as another program of support maybe more appropriate.
What others have said
“Thank you so much for the session. It was really helpful…. It helped me make sense and process what happened. It also helped me to understand that I am normal. I’m still worried about the future, but I am also stating feel a bit excited”.
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The journey of discovery
Price: Starting from £720
The experience of using a combination of evidence based psychological approaches and guided self-help strategies, to explore your own Reproductive narrative and trauma, as a means to rediscover you and create a new normal.
Description
This will be a therapeutic treatment model of 6 x weekly online or telephone sessions, for a duration of 50 minutes sessions, which will include,
- Established future goals.
- An individual therapeutic formulation to understand the links to how you are feeling.
- Psycho education around the effects of anxiety and trauma.
- The use of Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy strategies to help manage your symptoms.
- The use of Mindfulness and grounding techniques to help soothe your nervous system.
- The development of a therapeutic action plan for the future.
What this is
A taste of what therapy may feel like. Sessions will be structured around the individual points and so will form each session’s agenda. Within the sessions, we will also collaboratively agree tasks for you to practice at home and aid progress.
What this is not
This is not a full course of therapy. Commitment to completing some of the techniques shared as well as your own self-help commitment will help manage symptoms, but a longer course of therapy may be needed.
This will not be suitable for anyone who has experienced multiple traumas and complex grief. Long term work is recommended for these issues.
Please note a risk assessment and further information will need to be sought prior to the agreement of suitability, as another program of support maybe more appropriate.
What others have said
“Just being able to make sense of what it is that I am feeling and then look at ways I can cope has been powerful. I now feel that there is a chance I could have a sense of some control, no matter how small”.
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And so, we swim
50 Minute Initial assessment – Starting from £120
50 Minute treatment sessions – Starting from £120
90 Minute treatment sessions – Starting from £180
We will use evidence based and NICE approved approaches to help untangle and make sense of your experiences. By doing so, we will be able to sit with and face the overwhelming feeling of anxiety, loss, grief and trauma, as a result of Reproductive trauma. Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy, Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing (read more here), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Compassionate Mind Therapy and Mindfulness, will be used individually or as a combination, to allow you to understand your story and for you to gain a sense of control in your experience.
Description
Sessions will be weekly online, 50 minutes sessions, sometimes 90 minutes when working on trauma specific processing. Work will include,
- The use of psychometric tools to measure the symptoms of Anxiety, Depression, Postnatal Depression or Trauma.
- Exploring your future goals.
- Establishing an individual therapeutic formulation to understand the links to how you are feeling.
- Psycho education around the effects of anxiety and trauma.
- Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy strategies to help manage your symptoms and allow for stabilization.
- Mindfulness and grounding techniques to help soothe your nervous system.
- Trauma specific Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy or Eye Movement desensitisation Reprocessing to process the trauma memory.
- Review of work every 6-8 weeks to ensure therapy is still meeting your needs.
- Development of a therapeutic action plan for the future.
I work closely with many other professionals, and so where it is collaboratively agreed between my clients and I, referrals may be made or advice may be sought to further assist with your journey.
What this is
Medium to long term therapy, a minimum of 24 sessions. A commitment is needed, and sessions will need to be consistent.
What this is not
This is not a quick fix. Work in the trauma memory will not start until stabilization and coping tools have been fully established.
What others have said
“Therapy has allowed me to re-discover who I am, what I want and what I need. I am now able to think about past events without becoming an emotional mess who had no control. I am now excited about the future, whatever it may look like as I know I did all I could”.
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webinar and workbook
60 minute webinar
34 page workbook
Are you having IVF or Fertility treatment and need support?
You do not have to feel alone.
Find out:
- How to find the right clinic for you and your needs.
- How to prepare for fertility treatment, which includes seeking support at work.
- An understanding of timeframes regarding treatment.
- How to manage the emotional highs and the lows.
- How to seek the best emotional support for your individual needs.
- How to manage the two week wait, uncertainty and if you have a negative pregnancy test.
This webinar incorporates Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques (CBT), Compassionate mind and Mindfulness exercises. You will leave this webinar feeling in control and with a clear plan of what you need to feel empowered on this journey.
Description
This is a 60-minute webinar accompanied with a free workbook to use alongside. The webinar and workbook will provide practical tips, strategies and resources in managing the IUI/IVF/ICSI Fertility journey.
What this is
A tool to help you work through different aspects of the fertility treatment journey at your own pace. You can stop and start the webinar and workbook as and when it suits you.
What this is not
This is not Psychotherapy. This is to be used as a tool to help you consider what you need on your fertility journey. Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy, Compassionate mind and Mindfulness techniques are included. They are there to support you on the journey, however these strategies are not a replacement for structured Psychotherapy.
What others have said
“I love that I can watch the webinar anywhere. I was even able to watch it on my commute to work”.
“It was great that I could keep coming back to it (the webinar). I also like that I could watch it and make notes with my partner. It felt like we were working like a team”.
“The webinar shared things that I had not even thought about to consider. It was helpful to think about what I may want from a clinic, what I could ask my Consultant and also how my partner, friends and family around me could help me”.
What Happens Next
Step one
Contact Me
Contact me using the online form.
Step two
Create a Plan
You will be asked to complete a “Initial contact form”, so that I can check that I am a good fit for you. This will also help form part of the assessment around your therapeutic needs. If I believe I can offer you what you need and you have completed the “initial contact form”, we can then arrange the next step.
If, you want the Start to the beginning package, we will arrange a date for the session.
If you want the Journey to discovery or And so we swim, we will arrange the initial assessment appointment date. The initial assessment is where you can share information, check out if I am the right person for you, and if so, we can then plan future sessions. *Please note prices may vary depending on who is funding treatment*
Step three
Give yourself a break
Life, emotions and even motherhood can get in the way of therapy sometimes. That’s ok and I understand. Planned sessions may not always go ahead as planned, as we may have to deal with what is happening in the “here and now”.
The sessions are your sessions and so it’s important that you know you have control in these situations.
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